💥 “I’m Done Bending Over Backwards: Kind, Not a Doormat”

By Trixie Unfiltered™

Let’s make something real clear—because apparently, boundaries confuse people:

I am a servant of God, not a servant of man.

I love people.

I show up.

I give freely.

But I will not be emotionally available on demand like some kind of spiritual DoorDash.

My heart is not a help desk.

And my soul is not on clearance.

🎯 What I’ve finally accepted:

People will take everything you give and then still ask if you have more.

And the truth is?

I used to hand it over with a smile—even while silently falling apart.

But I’ve grown.

I’ve healed.

I’ve seen that you can be Christlike without being chronically used.

👏 Because let’s get this straight:

Kindness is a fruit of the Spirit—not a free pass for people to disrespect you.

Serving God is about obedience, not overextending yourself to please the loudest voices in the room.

And just because I can help doesn’t mean I have to say yes to every need that isn’t mine to carry.

💬 Trixie’s Personal Reminder:

I will love like Jesus.

I will give with grace.

I will be kind without compromising.

But I will no longer sacrifice myself to keep everyone else comfortable.

I don’t owe people constant access to me.

I owe God my obedience.

And if that looks like pulling back, protecting my peace, and saying “no” with love—then so be it.

📖 Verses to Stand On:

🛡 Galatians 1:10 – “Am I now trying to win the approval of man, or of God? … If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”

→ You’re not a puppet. You’re a daughter of the King.

🕊 Colossians 3:23–24 – “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men.”

→ You serve Heaven, not the hustle.

🔒 Proverbs 29:25 – “Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe.”

→ Stop bending for people who wouldn’t break for you.

✨ Final Word from Trixie:

I am not hard-hearted.

I am whole-hearted.

I’m kind—but I’m no longer accessible to people who confuse my love with weakness.

You want access to me?

Then match my honor. Match my faith. Match my energy.

Because baby—

I’m a servant of God, not a servant of man. And I refuse to be anything less.

💌 Signed with Spirit-led boundaries and holy confidence—

Trixie Unfiltered™

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